To fall in love

some day not few weeks ago when my dear sister stepped in my room towards 9; 30 while I was sleep at home. "Hey brother" she insisted trying to awakens me up "I have a problem" she said to me. I laughed busy ignoring her in my sleep ""at an early age how can you have a problem sister?" i grilled her with such preposterous question, "Ey its life my brother" i starred at her busy trying to figure out what actually happens in her mind, the whole totally her facial expression did changed drastically. from the i spotted that the was a real problem hidden within her. "Yah that life my sister, we cannot control it except to control ourselves against it, OK tell me what wrong?"

"Brother aren't you gonna broadcast me if I tells you?"

"NO sister i wont at all how could I do such thing?"

After a moment of silence she starred strait at my naked eyes that moment i wasn't wearing them. Within my conscience I waved down my eyes trying to calm down, and to listen her story.

She said to me "Nina bafana niyizinja, anisicabangeli Y nidlala ngathi. yaz I wish to commit suicide manje Sbu. We broke up yaz ey lenja yomfana ngoythola" she carried on "Including you Sbu it may happen that you are one of those, who knows what hidden behind those glasses."

I laughed a bit while the sixteen year old talks in that way.



In psychology we have such thing called multiple dimension personality where by a patient my sister is suffering from break up and use some stereo type to make an overall judgement having the thinking pattern which says "bonke abafana bayizinja" my main intention was to destroy such pattern of thinking, i starred at he and comment with this words.



"My sister in respect on how you felt right now. let me tell you this, that name inja it truly signify to me that you use it frequently in you relationship, is that so"

"Yebo inja ma ibheda isuke ibheda phela kumele uyitshele u cash wayo." what a response from her.

i carried on "that was one of the reasons for you break up in your relationship, if you don't believe tell me have he ever calls you a dog since you have falls in love with him?"

"Cha akakaze qobo." With a smile in her face

"So why umbiza ngenja pho?" I insisted to her "he is a human capable to love.

She starred down and says "we are both wrong am sorry for using the word DOG.

"Dont say sory to me, please phone him and says sorry."



Secondly let me tell you this you never have a break up my sister it is just a breakdown, soon the whole things gonna fixed up you know. only a married couple can say they have a break up, its just a break down i call it a temporally defeat in relationship.

"What a temporally defeat brother you make it sound so simple yaz."

"accept such temporally defeat to tighten the knots of your relationship." she thanked me awhile she was leaving my room i called her again and i did say "you are special okay bare in mind that.

"brother how could you say such thing that I am special he never even told me that how special I am in our relationship."



We resolve it they are now in love an i ma the burning Sbali today. from this story i figured out one thing that the words we use plays a significant impact on our relationships on daily basis. negative words led the tendency for relationship to decline insignificantly. if ever we have a break up again we must try to substitute such word with a positive and constructive one word such as "break down" or "a test on relationship or temporally defeat." then therefore our relationships might gloom and shines.



in relationships the are people who are trained to be so. It was my theory based on my sister and based on the research that i ma conducting right now based on the psychology as a student life. shortly the psychology of student life.